Courage of Compromise

I am a restless person. I cannot stay at a place for long. I have to move and go someplace else. I cannot stay still for long, and then I also cannot stay silent for long. I don't know if it is a good thing or bad but the fact that I have survived so far indicates that it's not a real cause for worry.

 

But I wonder what it means .. and why is it so ? Over the time I have realized that my inability to make peace with my present is one of reasons I am this way. I HAVE to move away, I HAVE to find something better, I HAVE to be something else and then I see other people.

 

I see kind that is like me, which I must say is in plenty and confirm my belief in my disappointing commonality. I also see the kind which is different and is in rarity, the kind that has made peace with what they have and make the best of it. Their life is not the endless struggle of haves and have nots but rather a poignant conduct with which they live every second of their lives, keeping the remains of their once cherished dreams, hidden from the world and deep down the depths of their hearts. It is not very difficult to identify such a person, their eyes tells you their stories. The calmness past the days of juvenile excitement in those eyes is sometime soothing and sometime mocking; telling us where we stand and where we could have been. The relief of being past the chase that once haunted them is apparent in those eyes.

 

If I have confused you(which I am sure I have), just think of a female relative who was far too educated to be the wife of your dork uncle but still chose to make the best of her home, her kids. Think of an uncle who is too good for the place or his job but still chose to give his job the best he can and still love that God forsaken place. Fools might believe that these people were not in love with their dreams enough to pursue them. Actually, I believe nothing can be farther from the truth. Dreams are always cherished, by one and by all. Some of us had to let go of them mostly because of things that are beyond our control. In fact, sometimes it is easier to fight than to give up and move on because it requires a certain amount of emotional maturity to do so.

 

What most of us don't understand that life probably is not about pursuing a better future; it sometimes can also mean simply living and cherishing our present. They say something about "counting your blessings" ..right ? That is what I am talking about. No matter what they say about the will and its way, the truth we all know deep down in our hearts is that there are dreams which won't come true. So what do we do ? Some people turn bitter, for their whole lives. They refuse to accept the truth. But, some people do accept this reality and move on and make the best of what they have. Fighting is sometimes easier than giving up or what we know as compromise. This rare ability of people to accept the their fate is what I call the courage of compromise.